How much freedom do our children need
The question of freedom for children is quite a contradictory one. The usual argument against freedom for children is the following: Life is hard and we must train the children so that they will fit into life later on. We must therefore discipline them. If adults allow children to do what they like how they ever be able to obey their teachers at school, to serve under a boss? How they ever be able to exercise self-discipline.
What does freedom stand for.
What do we usually mean when we speak about freedom? What is it fir? And what is being free? Who is responsible for child`s being free or not? His parents? His teachers at school? May be all his surroundings? The freedom, the happiness and well-being of children depend on a degree of love and approval the adults give them. But, if there is too much love? Is it good, when a child roams the streets after school, because he is free to decide when he is to come home and what to do? Do his parents really trust him or only pretend to do so? Do his parents really love him if they permit him to watch TV for hours or come back home late at night? The answer is obviously negative. The parents` desire to give their child freedom turns out to be a disaster.
Free or obedient.
Another question is: what should a tutor do with a child who is quite uncontrollable because of parents` lax authority and permissiveness. Children are hardy creatures and gradually they can overcome the consequences of parents` permissiveness. A qualified tutor is able to assist them in the process of recovering. It doesn`t mean that a tutor is to impose anything by authority. It could be wrong. Obedience is necessary, but it must come from within – not be imposed from without. Children need love, but not less they need respect. A strict and respectful tutor is able to assist his pupil in becoming self-disciplined and responsible.